Change the trajectory of your betrayal healing journey (and life) forever
The only betrayal trauma recovery program you'll ever need
Discover a personalized solution, whether you are still in a relationship with your betraying partner, or if you've gone through a breakup/ divorce.
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HI BESTIE!
I'm Jess, a Betrayal Trauma + Breakup Coach
In 2021, right before my first wedding anniversary, I found out that my then-husband and partner of 5 years had cheated on me. While it was devastating (to say the least), I knew I had to be the one to pull myself out of the mess. I went on an intense healing journey, eventually left my marriage, and then decided I wanted to help others do the same. I read countless books, took several courses, completed life coach training, and spent thousands of hours (and dollars) equipping myself with the knowledge to transform my own (and others') lives.
I went through a beautiful transformation - I got promoted at my job, started 2 businesses, transformed my physical and mental health, faced my fears of flying and solo-traveled the country, learned to live alone, restored my self-trust and became the best version of myself.
Now, I am married to an amazing man who I trust with my entire heart (something I didn't think I'd ever be able to do), who genuinely makes me love myself more - not less. And now I get to guide other women on this same journey.
I know what it's like to:
Obsessively read books on betrayal trauma, infidelity, narcissism, etc. (I literally bought a Kindle because I couldn't wait for Amazon Prime delivery) but not actually feel a change in my life
Go to therapy every week and feel like you're processing your past, but still lacking a clear plan for the future
Join free Facebook groups only to feel more overwhelmed, triggered, or surrounded by negativity
Poll your friends and family constantly asking for reassurance if you should stay or go, if they think you should be upset by something, etc.
Get caught up in rumination about your partner/ ex (or anyone other than yourself), giving away your power by thinking things like "Why does he not think our marriage is worth fighting for? Why doesn't he seem as affected? Is he even changing? What if I'm making a huge mistake? What will people think about me if I leave?" This is unproductive and sabotages our healing.
But I also know what it is like to be free from all of that, thanks to the principles you'll learn in my 1:1 Coaching Program.
Is this you?
If you're still in your relationship...
- You want to know EXACTLY what is expected for couples who recover from betrayal and want to cut past the noise of just focusing on "communication" or "love languages." You know that the fluffy traditional couples' counseling does NOT work for infidelity or sex/ porn addiction.
- You are constantly polling your friends and family and asking, "What would you do if you were me? Should I leave?" But you WANT to stop outsourcing your intuition and learn to trust yourself again.
- Every day you feel pressure to make a decision whether you should stay in or leave your relationship, but have limiting beliefs like, "What if I'm giving up too soon? What if I leave and he changes for the next girl? What if I'm alone forever? Maybe this is the best I can do."
- You are waiting for HIM to change before you make a decision about your own life (AKA being reactive instead of proactive). Right now you're asking him to change, trying to convey what you need, but you know that you need to implement better boundaries that result in clear expectations and time limits, so your struggle doesn't just keep going on forever.
You could be like my client V...
When she came to me, she was with a partner who had cheated on and lied to her, and made her doubt her reality. She had also lost trust in herself because she had tried to leave before, but always came back. She wasn't sure she deserved better, but was becoming a shell of a person because of her over-monitoring him, feeling unsafe, and like she had no control in the situation.
What changed:
- Together we worked on expanding her life (which had narrowed and become consumed by her relationship), she started a new side hustle, started seeing friends again, and started doing solo outings
- She got comfortable with uncertainty. We created a sense of safety in herself - not in her relationship or monitoring it.
- She worked on her self-worth and self-concept. She realized that she was only accepting mistreatment because she didn't think she could do any better.
And now? She has moved out of their shared apartment for the LAST time, successfully gone no contact, and is now experiencing a new level of peace. She has the tools she needs to manage this transition and is coming out of survival mode.
Or my client C...
C had been married for 20 years and found out that her partner had been going to strip clubs, prostitutes, and more. She knew that she didn't need to hyperfixate on her relationship any longer and knew her next step was to get personalized help. She felt terrible about her body, comparing herself to women who were 30+ years younger than her, and was too scared to leave her house (she wouldn't even work out in her home gym!)
What changed:
- Together we did some mindset work and she realized that if her relationship couldn't handle her being her best self (working out, seeing friends, feeling strong in her faith), that is a relationship she didn't want to be in.
- We worked on the idea that "watching" him was creating safety for her. What she was really afraid of was uncertainty - not knowing what he would do if she loosened the reigns. However, letting go would give her the valuable data she needed. If he acted out (or didn't), she would have a better idea about the state of her relationship.
- She began to put herself out there again and reclaim the things she loved about herself. Of course she would stay in her relationship out of desperation if she had nothing else going on and felt terrible about herself. We worked on her body image, her harsh inner critic, and how SHE was the prize.
And now? She is consistently working out in her home gym, making lunch dates with friends, and joined 3 church groups. Her relationship did NOT fall apart - instead, it got BETTER. They are getting the help that they need and have even gone on a couple romantic getaways.
Is this you?
If you're no longer in your relationship...
- You want to go no contact (as much as possible - obviously some people have kids, pets, businesses, etc. together, but I have a plan for that, too!) and not feel the urge to text him every Friday night after drinking an entire bottle of Stella Rosa
- You find yourself wanting closure, but know that you will never get it from someone who couldn't even give you what you needed while you were IN the relationship. Instead, you are giving yourself the gift of closure.
- You want to love love again. You want to see the good in men or people in general and be able to watch your favorite romance movies without crying or feeling like you'll never have that level of intimacy. You're ready to rebuild trust in yourself and feel confident about your ability to find your soulmate one day
- You know you need to focus on yourself. For too long the emphasis was on your relationship, or your breakup, and it felt easier to hold onto that because now you have lost such a key part of your identity (being a girlfriend/ fiancee/ wife), but you want to feel excited instead of intimidated when you envision this next chapter of your life
You could be like my client D...
When she came to me, she had recently gotten out of a relationship and had two very young children with her betraying partner. She was still idolizing her ex and struggling with the idea of being a nuclear family. She also felt unsure of what to do in her life - her job was ending, grad school was stressing her out, and she felt immense pressure to have it all together.
What changed:
- Together we did mindset work to further solidify the inner knowing she had that her relationship was not healthy for her or her children. She started to break out of the cognitive dissonance and realized how manipulative her ex actually was, and we closed the gap around who she WANTED him to be vs who he actually was
- She leaned on her support system and ended up moving across the country where she could have the support of her family AND take her kiddos to the beach. She got involved in church, started meeting up with friends, and found a local pilates studio that she goes to on a regular basis. Her entire life did a 180 in a short 3 months
- She leaned into her faith and realized that the husband God sent to her is NOT the man who cheats, lies, and doesn't show up for her or their kids. She started reading her daily devotional again, made a prayer board (like a vision board), and feels hopeful about finding a man who CHOOSES to love her and her children
And now? She is living her best life, starting a new job that she is technically overqualified for but is soothing to her nervous system, has her own little place with her kids that feels peaceful (no walking on eggshells or getting triggered daily), and is better able to coparent now that she is less attached to her ex & the thought of reconciliation.
What You Receive (& Why)
I have strategically designed this coaching program to be a one-stop shop to achieving your post-betrayal goals - no guessing required, just a clear purpose and vision.
Biweekly 60-minute Zoom Meetings
In our video sessions, we dive deep into what you're struggling with, problem-solve, do some mindset work/ start to think about things differently, and come up with an action plan. Then, we follow up in our next session and continue working the process!
Messaging Support 5 Days/ Week
As you can see, several of the screenshots on this page are from Telegram messaging support! This is one of my clients' favorite parts of coaching. We don't have to spend our sessions just "catching up" because they can always message me and update me, let me know what they're struggling with, need a pep talk, or want to celebrate their wins!
New Vision Membership
3 or 6 month access to my membership, which gives you structured learning for in-between sessions. You can show up in the membership as much or as little as you want!
- Monthly group calls where you can get coached and connect with others
- A group of girls who are also healing from betrayal, where you can give + receive support
- I'll be in the group 2 days per week answering questions + coaching!
- 10 Weeks to Self-Love Course
- New Vision Course
- New masterclasses every other month
- Library of past masterclasses + meditations
- Getting Closure Without Full Disclosure (how to move on when you don't know the full truth of your ex's cheating + didn't get an apology or any accountability)
- Self-Compassion After Betrayal (how to decrease shame and be there for yourself in tough/ triggering moments)
- Handling the Holidays (how to navigate the holidays alone, fighting loneliness, or encountering nosy family members)
- Diamond Mindset: Staying Clear When Triggers Strike (different trigger response strategies to try out)
- Rebuilding Self-Trust After Betrayal
You’ll finish this lesson with your passive income plan for the next 5 years.
BUT THIS IS NOT FOR EVERYONE!
1:1 Coaching is for you if...
I work with a very specific kind of woman!
- You are feeling motivated to make a change and want to have the guidance of someone who understands, both personally and professionally
- You are willing to be vulnerable and open. There is literally NOTHING you could tell me that I haven't done myself, or that my clients haven't done. This is a judgment-free zone, and my job is to support you.
- You are ready to take action and implement the things we talk about in sessions/ the things you learn in the membership. You understand that you can't just show up to sessions 2 hours a month and magically transform
- You are willing to step out of victim mode and take radical responsibility for your life & the results you get from it
- You do not want to simply "get through" this experience. You want to make it to the other side a totally different person and actually believe the saying "everything happens for a reason"
"This is me!"
If this is you, then you already know your next logical step is to invest in your healing
See below for package options
Only 1 spot available until June 2025!
Option 1:
A transformative 3 month container where you receive:
- Biweekly 60-min Zoom sessions where we can dive deep. 6 total. (VALUE = $882)
- Text + voice text support M-F to work through things in real-time. If you have questions, need a pep talk, or want to talk through things, I'm here for you! (VALUE = $381)
- 3 months in New Vision membership (VALUE = $333)
- Changing your life + experiencing post-traumatic growth = PRICELESS
YOU PAY ONLY $1400
3 & 6 month payment plans available
Best for those who already have some direction/ are farther along in their journey, but could use some extra support
Option 2 *BEST VALUE*:
A transformative 6 month container where you receive:
- Biweekly 60-min Zoom sessions where we can dive deep. 12 total. (VALUE = $1764)
- Text + voice text support M-F to work through things in real-time. If you have questions, need a pep talk, or want to talk through things, I'm here for you! (VALUE = $762)
- 6 months in New Vision membership (VALUE = $555)
- Changing your life + experiencing post-traumatic growth = PRICELESS
YOU PAY ONLY $2400 (YOU SAVE $400)
3, 6, & 9 month payment plans available
Best for those who are earlier on in their healing journey or would like extensive support during this transition period in their lives!
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