NEW! Quiz: What's Your Betrayal Trauma Healing Personality?
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Take this quick quiz to find out! You'll receive an in-depth explanation, as well as a guided meditation and journal prompts for your specific personality!
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THE go-to membership for reclaiming your identity and rebuilding your confidence so that you can create a clear vision for your life after betrayal (and one you LOVE)

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A self-paced course (with 1-on-1 support options) for girls who have experienced betrayal trauma and a breakup/ divorce and are ready to heal and create their dream life!

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What is betrayal trauma?
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Betrayal trauma was coined in the 1990s by Jennifer Freyd. It occurs when “the people or institutions on which a person depends on for survival significantly violate that person’s trust or well-being.” It is a boundary violation of egregious proportions.
We depend on our significant other for comfort, safety, love, friendship. More often than not, we believe that our “person” would never betray us by cheating, using pornography, hiding a sexual addiction, or otherwise breaking relational agreements. This causes a reality collapse and brings up a host of intrusive thoughts, questioning, and more. You may wonder:
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“What was our relationship?”
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“How could he lie to my face?”
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“Who is he, really?”
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“What is wrong with me? Why didn’t I see any signs?”
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“Would he have ever told me if I didn’t find out myself?”
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“If I can’t trust him, who can I trust?”
Being betrayed and denied our reality is abuse. It is emotional, psychological, and sexual abuse. Your partner has purposefully engaged in behaviors that they knew you would not approve of, and that if you'd known all of the information about your relationship, it likely would have looked a lot different (or ceased to exist). ​
Your experience is so valid, and you are not alone. If you've been affected by betrayal trauma, please continue reading below to find out how you can receive support.

 I'm Jess, AKA your Betrayed Bestie!
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I help young women (20s-30s) heal from sexual betrayal trauma and their subsequent breakup/ divorce through relatability, mindset shifts, and subconscious reprogramming.
Believe me when I say: I have been where you are. In 2021, I found out about my ex- husband’s infidelity, and my entire life changed overnight. Over the next 2+ years, I went on an intense healing journey. I dove into trauma healing, personal development, and became almost unrecognizable just one year in. Though my ex did not choose recovery and my marriage did not make it, I did! I focused on grieving my relationship, building my new life, and documenting everything along the way so that I could help other girls who were going through the same thing (and in less time than it took me!) I have taken the most helpful healing modalities and pieced everything together into a signature framework that will provide a total transformation (it works if you work it!)
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